As you probably already know I read a lot and try to stay up on things that will add something to mine and my families life. I subscribe to a weekly email that is called the Friday Forward by Robert Glazer.

I was reading a piece the other day from him about “Energy Vampires.” 

What is an energy vampire?

As described by a monk-turned-business consultant, Dandapani explains, we all have a finite amount of energy to use each day and we’re exposed to people who either fill us with energy or drain us of energy. People who drain our energy are known as energy vampires. These people could be colleagues, friends, family members – even people we encounter while out running errands.

Now not everyone that drains on you is an instant vampire. Dandapani also goes on to explain that we must first determine whether these people are a temporary vampire or whether they are a habitual energy vampire. Temporary energy vampires might be going through a difficult time in their life (divorce, loss of family member, job, etc.). 

One of the first things to do when dealing with these people is to figure out if they are a temporary vampire or whether they are inherently an energy vampire. People that are facing problems such as (divorce, loss of a family member, job, drugs, etc.) could be considered a temporary vampire. They just need somebody there for them as they go through their trial.

On the other hand a habitual energy vampire doesn’t ever want to change. They are the type of person that when you are done talking to them you might feel like the life has been literally sucked out of you.

Robert went on to outline these four specific areas to help identify a Energy Vampire…

The Victim or Blamer: They consistently talk about how they are always getting the short end of the stick in life. They find external blame wherever possible and like to make others feel guilty.
The Center of Attention: They always seem to make themselves the center of attention in any room or conversation; they like to stand out.
The Narcissist: They are consumed with themselves and their own problems; they take very little time to think about others or how to make their lives better.
The Drama Queen/King: They love the highs and lows, are surrounded by drama constantly, and want to bring everyone along for the ride.
I think we all have a least on person in our circle that could fall in one of these type of categories. Identifying someone like this is not being mean either. It’s just simply acknowledging how one person’s actions have an influence on you.

How they make you feel… And that’s ok. We are not meant to be a perfect match for everyone in life. We have differences and that’s what makes us unique.

We even have that here with our Documented Approach to real estate. Not everyone is a fit for our approach. Not everyone believes in the way that we do things.

But that’s ok because in the end we have garlic for those partners that have the energy that do… 

If you like what you read then please write back.  Thank you so much and I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Chad

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